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Posted in Mental Health, Motivation

5 Step Goal Setting Plan

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. – Lao Tzu

You don’t need to have a structured SMART goal to make changes in your life.  Simply start with a vision of where you want to be or what you want to change, then set a realistic goal, stay on track with the easy steps listed below.

1. Know Your Goal

Your first task is to discover exactly what your goal will be. What will you achieve to demonstrate you reached your goal? What does that goal really look like? Be very specific about what your desired end result is and by when you hope to see changes in your life. This step should result in a clear mental picture with lots of details.

2. Create Time to Plan

In the beginning all you have is a rough concept, a glimmer of a dream. When you develop a complete set of tasks, you immediately move closer to success. The plan also needs to include what you are going to give up.  If you already have a busy schedule, you will need to delegate responsibilities to other family members, decline a few social activities or even miss watching your favourite show on TV to make room for the new tasks you will need to implement. However and wherever you can carve out the time to work on your goal.

3. Focus on your Goal Everyday

I’m sure you probably want to achieve your goal as fast as possible. So focus on the goal daily, visualize the end result, and do a little something everyday to move you to the new goal. Without daily focus, bad habits that have kept you from your goal in the past may take over and make you feel discouraged. The only way to override negative subconscious messages is to consciously target what you DO want! Don’t let distractions take over. Life WILL try to get in your way!

4. Be Passionate

One of the most powerful tools in your “Goal Planning Tool Box” is having real passion for your goal. Strong desire for your goal will help you ingrain the goal into your brain and new routine. Intense passion for your goal will also help you squash any inappropriate old “failure” messages that are lingering in your subconscious mind.

5. Ready, Set, Action

In many ways, actually taking action can be the hardest step. You need to remember that a goal is built by taking one small action after another to create positive change. If you can commit to do at least one small action per day, then your actions will add up and make a difference. Avoid sitting back and waiting for everything to magically happen.

One of the keys that works for me is to brainstorm using different colored pencils or actually create a vision board using magazines and craft supplies I have lying around the house. I am a visual person, so these types of activities help me create a visual reminder of what I’m working towards and all the pieces that will help me be successful.

Share your goal on the Violet Buddha Facebook Page and the Tribe will cheer you on!

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha


Posted in Mental Health, Motivation

10 Motivational Quotes to Fire you up!

Do you know why we read motivational quotes? For motivation, of course! You might need a little bit of motivation, when you realize that last year’s list of goals also apply to this year. It’s important to get off on the right foot, know your baseline (add link), have a plan (add Link)  and be ready to stay on track. All of us can benefit from inspirational thoughts, so here are ten great ones that will help motivate you to make the changes your desire.

Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are. – Dale Carnegie

Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. – Napoleon Hill

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

For Every Reason It’s Not Possible, There Are Hundreds Of People Who Have Faced The Same Circumstances And Succeeded. – Jack Canfield

Opportunities don’t happen, you create them. – Chris Grosser

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. – Carl Bard

I’m not telling you it is going to be easy – I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it. – Art Williams

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative. – W. Clement Stone

All progress takes place outside the comfort zone. -Michael John Bobak

You Are Never Too Old To Set Another Goal Or To Dream A New Dream. – C.S. Lewis

Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning. – Mahatma Gandhi

These are quotes that mean something to me. Hopefully one or two of them is also inspiring to you. If not, maybe they will motivate you to create a list of your own motivational sayings. Need some more support, join the Violet Buddha Tribe Facebook group.

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Karma, Kindness

Acts Of Kindness Benefit Everyone

Do you really want to be happy? 

Everyone says yes, but the gateway to happiness makes some of us feel overwhelmed. The gateway to happiness, is giving to others. 

Some of us may feel that, if we give too much, our generosity, we will be taken advantage of by others. This is true, and a few very selfish individuals can possibly perceive your good intentions as a weakness. The opposite is actually true as empathy and understanding make you strong.

However, people who seek to take advantage of your kindness are in the minority. Gandhi said “We must be the change, we wish to see in the world.” Think about it, change has to start somewhere, so why not let it start with you and me, today?

You can donate anything randomly, without seeking reward, and anonymously, without telling anyone. This is good for you, the universe, and those who benefit from your acts of kindness. Every time you give, you will receive – even, if you are not looking for a reward.

Why not try and see what happens? What some call, “karma,” the law of cause and effect. It works like this: For every action, there is an equal reaction. Let’s make sure the reactions to our actions are good ones.

Danny Thomas, the founder of St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital in the USA said, “All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don’t discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It’s what you do for others.”

Share everything and you will achieve a legacy of kindness. Share nothing and people will do their best, to forget you. When my life is over I will only leave memories, in the minds of others, and I want them all to be great ones.

So, how much should you give? Here are some examples of things you can give on a daily basis that are entirely FREE!

  • Heart felt, kind words
  • A positive note
  • A thank you card
  • A flower or a beautiful bouquet
Photo by Lisa Fotios on Pexels.com

As you can see, these types of gifts won’t leave you poor. What will happen as a result of this kindness is that most people will naturally, return kindness back to you.

You should also take the time to be polite to all of the people who perform services for you, every day. Many people do not bother to say hello or thank you to the maid, janitor, security guard, parking attendant, or service clerk. Once you do, you may even learn their name, and you would be surprised how many of them will go out of their way to give you good service, just by addressing them by their first name.
If you establish sincerity and trust where ever you go, you will bring value. It is really that simple. As Princess Diana said, “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Anxiety, Mental Health, Self Care

The Signs I Ignored

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

Marilyn Monroe

Hi Moms are always tired…right? I became a mom before I turned 20 and by 40 I had 4 kids with a grandbaby on the way. Many of my symptoms I attributed to motherhood, being a wife and working full time. I also have 2 types of anemia so I figured it must be a result of that, or stress from going through my divorce in my early twenties and subsequent custody battle that was on/off for years. I made excuse after excuse instead of paying attention to what had been building over all this time.

Flag 1 – Why can’t I stay asleep?

The insomnia started in my twenties, the baby was sleeping in way past my wake up time.  I would take advantage of the fact that I was an earlier bird to drink my coffee in the morning quiet, read magazines or start to tackle my to-do list for the day.  I never complained about the fact that I was getting fewer and fewer hours of sleep as the years went by. I could fall asleep with no problems (probably because I was so exhausted from my day) however I was starting to wake up between 3:00 am and 5:00 am more consistently.

Flag 2 – Why do I wake up with a headache?

The next flag should have been the headaches….I would wake up in the morning and my head would be throbbing, a dull ache in the base of my skull or in between my eyes.  I must be dehydrated, need my caffeine fix, slept wrong or maybe a migraine would be on the horizon due to the barometric pressure. Sometimes it would pass after a few hours but the frequency was definitely increasing.

Flag 3 – Why can’t I remember anything?

I know that stress, lack of sleep and poor eating habits can lead to memory issues but I have also have pernicious anemia which causes brain fog if my vitamin B12 levels get too low.  I have monthly injections to maintain the proper level and grew accustomed to a few days of memory issues when I was due for a shot. What began to happen was that the fog never lifted.  I tried diet plans, increasing my B12 dose, sleeping pills and even sought help from my acupuncturist.

The Verdict 

The truth of what was happening didn’t come together for me until 2019.  I was diagnosed with seasonal depression and started daily light therapy with a Happy Light.  My brain was loving it and so was I because after each light session I would feel more awake and energized.  I was able to concentrate for longer periods of time, my memory has improved and I was sleeping 6 hours straight at night.  I was relieved that I didn’t need to take medication but then the New Year hit….

In the first 3 months of 2019, I had several family members that had health crises which lead me to have an overload of stress and put my anxiety into high gear. I was worried about everyone and everything – ALL THE TIME. I was terrified of what could happen next. My positive personality was sliding into darkness and all my usual tools were failing me.

For weeks the insomnia escalated until I did not sleep for more than 2 hours straight for weeks.  I was lucky if I slept for a total of 3-4 hours a night. I began to get the shakes, tremor in my hands and was experiencing panic attacks on a daily basis. All I wanted to do was stay in bed and hide from the world.  I would struggle through the day, try to put on a smile and be there for my family.

When I sought out professional help the message was clear: Stop, Sleep, Eat, Fill your cup.  I had to hear the words Adjustment Disorder, Anxiety Disorder and Depression from my Doctor. It wasn’t an easy moment to absorb.  I needed some medicine to help balance out my serotonin – after a few weeks and playing with the timing of the dose – I started to feel like me again. 

This blog is part of my therapy, I do it to stay accountable and to help others who struggle with Mental Illness. I am here to bring awareness on mental health topics and to share what I’m learning in relation to self care.


If you have at least four of these symptoms on a pretty much  daily basis for more than a month, please talk to someone you trust and seek medical intervention. 

  • Depressed or irritable mood most of the day, nearly every day or people asking if you are OK.
  • Decreased interest or pleasure in activities always enjoyed
  • Increased headaches
  • Eating too much or too little (unintended weight gain or loss)
  • Change in sleep (more or less than usual)
  • Fatigue or low energy levels
  • Feelings of worthlessness or excessive worry or inappropriate guilt
  • Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness
  • Thoughts of death or suicide

Keep in mind that besides headache, other body complaints you can experience with depression are:

  • Pain (neck, back, abdominal)
  • Joint aches and pains
  • Constipation/diarrhea
  • Overall body weakness

I want everyone to know that they are not alone and there is no shame in asking for help. I’d love to connect on social media and hear your story.  We can learn a lot from each other by sharing our experience and squashing the stigma that exists on mental health challenges.

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha


Posted in Anxiety, Stress Reduction

3 Ways to Quiet Your Mind

A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear – Yvan Byejee

Find time to quiet your mind.

Nowadays, we are so overscheduled and our days are so packed full of activities that we barely have enough time to sleep. Consider yourself the exception and not the norm, if you have accomplished a sense of balance in this hectic society that we all share. For many reasons, we overextend, overachieve and overstress ourselves to the point of breaking. Taking on too much can not only hurt our body but also stresses the mind. 

I realized my mind was hurting in the Fall of 2018.  It started slowly, headaches and insomnia crept into my life, I had aches and pains in my neck and shoulders and I was super jumpy.  I would overreact to regular everyday noises – the phone ringing, a door squeaking, even someone clapping their hands or laughing – would send me into a fight or flight response. I was overtired, unable to focus and my memory was failing.  For several weeks I made excuses for what was happening, I thought that if I could just get a good night’s sleep or make it to the weekend, my symptoms would disappear. It didn’t happen of course and what started out as seasonal depression evolved into a serious anxiety disorder that I could no longer deny.

I’m sharing these simple changes that can really have a positive impact on your mind and reducing the stress you encounter on a daily basis.

Its up to you!

Practicing Gratitude

It’s so easy to get frustrated when things don’t go your way. From the moment we spill our coffee, lock the keys in the car, and forget our lunch on the kitchen counter, a spiral of negativity results in a downward tailspin. However, we have the choice to stay in a state of discontent and let that dictate the rest of our day, or we can be grateful for the other things in our lives that have gone as planned.

Have you ever noticed that when something great happens, we tend to smile briefly and then move onto the next moment like nothing happened?  However, when something goes wrong, we feel the need to tell everyone and anyone that will listen how bad things are. It’s in those exact moments of unhappiness that we need to focus on what we are grateful for, and it is then and only then that we will pull ourselves out of the negative zone. 

Staying focused on gratitude offers your mind something to smile about, regardless of what’s happening around you. Focusing on people, places, and even things that make you grateful, enables your mind the break it needs from stressors to stay active and healthy.

Nothing is a Choice

Everyone has a busy schedule; that is a known fact. We all have created our schedules to overflow and then complain that we do not have time for ourselves to rest, recharge and reflect on the day. Take a good look at your day or week so you can see what you can remove and what you can delegate to someone else. If you are going to have a healthy mind, you need to take care of it just like you care for your body. You need your mond, body and spirit to align in order to live your best life.

The best tip I can give you for quieting your mind is prioritize self care in schedule. Put it in big red pen on your calendar, text yourself a reminder, and place it on your list of things to do during the week. Make time for family and friends, a visit to the spa for a mani/pedi or massage and partake in activities you enjoy.  Take some deep breaths, find a calm place to meditate and be thankful for the blessings that occur all around you throughout the day.

Taking One Minute

Being in the moment has become a cliché; but if you really take the time and trouble to learn what that truly means for you, then you will learn how to quiet your mind in no time at all. Focus on what you are doing at the exact moment you are doing it. 

In this way, you are focused on the moment at hand and not two days from now when something big might be happening. These are just three helpful tips for quieting your mind.

A great app to get you started is called One Moment Meditation.  You can download it from the Apple or Google Play

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Mental Health, Self Care

The 24-Hour Mental Health Vacation

“A vacation is what you take when you can no longer take what you’ve been taking.” – Earl Wilson

I know the positive benefits that a night away has on my mental health.  No hubby, no kids, no pets, and a bed all to myself equals a good night’s sleep. Most importantly, the one or two nights of freedom without any responsibility enables me to focus on self care without any interruptions.  I am able to fill my cup and recharge.

Here are 4 vacation suggestions that will help you feel refreshed and restored.

  1. The Zen Seeker
  2. The Creative
  3. The Outdoor Enthusiast
  4. The Lover

The Zen Seeker

This 24-hour vacay is the most challenging of the four.  It takes a lot of commitment on your part but will be the most revealing.

  • Disconnection
    • Technology break for 24 hours (no TV, Radio, computer or phone)
    • Book a manicure or pedicure – or both!! (yes, guys can do this too, you can thank me later!)
    • Call the local yoga studio and sign up for a free trial – take you first yoga class
    • Go out for dinner and/or brunch with your friends
  • Movie Madness
    • Watch 3-4 movies in a row that you have on your wishlist
    • You can do this escape with the hubby or a group of friends
    • Pick a theme is you want – romance, horror, comedy, favorite actor/actress director.
    • Do not answer the front door until the take out guy arrives – this is the only exception…
    • Take note of what you enjoyed about the movie or have a discussion if you are doing the activity with others.
  • Ladies of Leisure
    • Get a bunch of you girlfriends together and hunker down at someones house or rent an air B&B for the weekend.
    • Your goal is to do some or all of the following:
      • Stay up late talking, reminiscing and joking around
      • Eat your favorite candy
      • Sleep in
      • Shop til you drop
      • Enjoy great food – Plan a menu or pot luck that everyone can contribute to
      • Connect with your tribe!
  • Bookworm
    • Grab a book you’ve been wanting to read – read it without interruption from cover to cover.
    • Find a great place to read – the park, a local garden, poolside or cozied up with your favorite blanket.
    • If you want a connection and ability to discuss the books you are reading, check out online book clubs or set one up with your book loving friends or coworkers!

The Creative

  • Dancer, Dance, Dance
    • If you don’t like a late night but still love dancing with the girls, then invite your besties over and get dressed, do hair and makeup and much on some great appetizers with a glass of your favorite cocktail.  If you prefer a mocktail – try this one (LINK)
    • Hit your favorite club and dance until your tootsies hurt
    • Sleep in the next morning and spend the day in your PJs recuperating.
  • Beautiful Artiste
    • Visit a local gallery, take time with each painting and absorb the creativity required for each piece of art.
    • On you way home, visit an art supply store and choose an inspiration project to paint, sculpt or draw
    • If you have kids, then include them in the art project and display everyone’s work at the end of the day.
  • The Foodie
    • Sign up for a cooking course and learn some new culinary skills.
    • Explore the local outdoor market and treat yourself to a new ingredient, fruit or delicacy.
    • If you prefer to consume more than create, enjoy Breakfast, lunch and dinner in a new city.  Do you research, read some foodie reviews and let your appetite me your guide.

The Adventure Seeker

  • Explore your own city
    • Visit your own backyard with fresh eyes – Make a list of places or activities that you have not visited in the city where you live.
    • Attend local events or festivals
    • Visit the museum, aquarium or walk the canal
  • Learn something new
    • Whether its a single day course or over a few weeks explore:
      • Skydiving
      • Water Skiing
      • Glass-Blowing
      • Pottery
      • Horseback riding
      • Rock climbing
    • Immerse yourself in the pursuit of your new skills as you made need a change more than some extra rest.
  • Into the wilderness
    • Grab a tent, sleeping bag and enough food for 24 hours and find the nearest campground to explore. (if you are not a camper, many locations have cottages or teepees you can rent)
    • If you forget to pack something, no worries, you can do without for 1 day!
    • Hike during the day, float in the lake, cook over the fire and soak up the stars in the nighttime sky.
    • Breathe in the fresh air and nature sounds.

Share your favorite mini vacation spot or getaway idea in the comments below and inspire the Tribe.

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Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Meditation, Mental Health

The Power of Breath

“Smile, breathe and go slowly.” ~Thích Nhất Hạnh

Anxiety and panic can arise at the most inconvenient and unconventional times.  I have found myself on many occasions in the midst of an attack when I am all by myself, with no apparent trigger or intrusive thoughts but for some reason my body reacts.

It took some time and several entries in my journal marking down the environment, what I had been doing or thinking prior to the attack and compiling my symptoms to come to the realization that I had a warning sign every single time – my breath.

As I start to feel overwhelmed by thoughts or feelings, the first thing that changes in my body is the speed and depth of my breath.  My breathing starts to become quick, shallow and uneven. My nervous system goes into overdrive and with each breath I escalate my fight or flight response. I needed an antidote that was quick, easy and available at all times – the key was breath.

Calming Mind and Breath

Learning to be conscious of my breath through both meditation and my yoga practice has been particularly beneficial to my anxiety disorder. Having the instinct to breathe slowly and evenly through my nose while engaging my diaphragm has improved my posture, lowered my blood pressure and significantly decreased my stress related pain points.

Whether you are trying to improve your health, or seeking a bit of zen, pausing several times a day to breathe deeply promoted relaxation, concentration and improved my mental clarity.  Another positive result that I have noticed is, when I do my deep breathing throughout the day and then about 30 minutes before bed, I sleep much better. As someone who has struggled with insomnia for many years, this has been the most amazing side effect.

Deep Breathing Basics

Here are two easy exercises you can incorporate into your daily routine.

  • Lie on your back, bend your knees toward the ceiling and keep your feet flat on the floor.  Put a hardcover book on your abdomen (just under your belly button) and watch how the book rises and falls as you breathe deeply, slowly and evenly.
  • Lie in your bed, with a pillow under your head and both hands resting on your stomach.  Watch you belly rise and fall with each breath. Try inhaling for 4 counts, hold for 2 counts and then exhale completely for 5 counts. Repeat this 5 times or until you feel the tension in your body release.

If you prefer a little more guidance and flexiblity to do your breathing practice at any time, then try the OMM app…..

App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/one-moment-meditation/id873255555

Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.onemomentmeditation.omm1&hl=en


Inhale.  Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Yoga

Tips for Avoiding Yoga Injuries

Yoga is the perfect opportunity to be curious about who you are ― Jason Crandell

Photo by Burst on Pexels.com

Do you think that yoga is an injury free practice and that there is no way you to get really hurt moving so slowly? Unfortunately, this is not entirely true. Without theI’m proper care and planning, yoga injuries can be quite common. In order to protect yourself, I put together a few pointers and keep you safe.

#1 Listen to Your Body

Depending on your personality, the yoga instructor, and your fellow yogis, it can be easy to get somewhat competitive. Pushing your body too far on any given day can quickly result in a painful injury. 

Understanding that some days will be better days than others and that your sleep, diet, and focus can all affect your performance in some way. Instead of thinking “I was able to do this pose last week,” or “Heidi is rocking this pose, I need to push myself more,” listen to what your body is telling you. If it’s a day to challenge yourself, fantastic! If it’s a day to hold back, then listen to what your body is telling you. 

#2 Choose a Knowledgeable Yogini

Yoga is an extraordinarily popular practice and there are classes in just about every community in the world. The immense growth of yoga studios means a tremendous increase in the number of instructors too. Be aware that not all instructors are not created equal – some are very skilled while others still learning. 

Amateur instructors can unintentionally cause injuries by pushing students too far or by positioning your body into a pose that you’re not ready for. Pay attention to your instructor’s attitude and practices. How do they handle beginners? Are they willing to talk to you before or after class to give you some one on one pointers or attention? Additionally, you should review their accreditation and talk to fellow yogis to get their opinions on the. Many yoga studios put Bios of their instructors on their websites and you can usually find some reviews in local facebook groups.

#3 Give Yourself Time to Learn

Everyone starts yoga at the same place, as a beginner. Allow yourself time to be a beginner and ease into the practice. It is your journey and it will be more valuable if you take the time to absorb what is happening around you and how it makes you feel. You need to know that it can take some time to find the right instructor, studio and yoga type that fits your needs and personality. Grant yourself time to learn and give your body time to adapt.

#4 Develop a Routine

 Also, give your body time to warm up before and cool down after class. As you ease into and out of each class, you’ll give your body time to adapt and do what you request of it. That also means going into postures slowly and coming out of them slowly, too. This routine will help you be in the moment and help you be conscious of the mind/body connection.

In order to get the most benefit out of your practice, it’s very important to be consistent in taking at least one yoga class once a week. The more time you give your body to practice the movements, become flexible and strong, the better your experience will be. Most importantly you’ll reduce your risk of injury. Yoga is wonderful for your body, mind, and spirit. Take it easy on yourself and prevent injuries so you can enjoy your practice all year round.

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Mental Health, Motivation

Establishing your Motivational Baseline

Do What You Can With All You Have, Wherever You Are – Theodore Roosevelt

Making changes in life is not always easy, however it is the way we grow, learn and challenge ourselves to develop as human beings. Change is an ongoing process and will always be a part of being human. When you embark on changing anything in your life you have to start from where you are. Until you know where that is it will be difficult to effectively make the change. You have to start with a baseline to measure your progress. Starting with a baseline is about determining where you are and what you are currently doing so that you will be able to know exactly what needs to be changed. It may sound weird, but many of us are unaware of what we do.

Whenever I need to make a change, the first thing I do is start a journal for a week just to get a baseline. Whether it’s losing weight, being grateful or being more active. The next week I review my notes to see how many times I repeated the habit or did not follow through. Many of us go through life on autopilot and we just are not aware of what we are doing on a daily basis. When you keep track of it – and this works with anything – you have a better picture of where you are and what needs to change.

X marks the spot!

The first step in change is awareness. You have to become aware of what you are doing and exactly where you are before you can proceed forward. Keeping track for a week or two will provide you with valuable information that will support your change effort. Before you launch yourself into any type of change effort, you have to know where you are. Figuring out where you are is like a travel map that have an X saying “You are here” and you get to decide where your next stop on the map will be.

So now you just need to pick the destination:

  • Sleep
  • Weight (Gain or Loss)
  • Gratitude
  • Exercise
  • Water or Alcohol Consumption
  • Meditation
  • Money/Spending/Budget
  • Self Care (“me Time”)

What will you be tracking in 2020et inspired by some great motivational quotes and share your Goal on Instagram using #VBTribeGoals

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha

Posted in Motivation

The Golden Rules of Motivation

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.  Live the life you have imagined. – Henry David Thoreau

Why is motivation so important? Let me tell you…It is the fire in your soul that keeps you yearning for the heat of accomplishment.

Whether you’re trying to achieve something yourself or lead others towards a goal, the ability to be self-motivated or to motivate others is crucial. When we meet people who are regarded as successful or high achievers, it’s tempting to assume that they are innately self-driven, or are natural leaders with high levels of motivation. This might be true, but it is just as likely that they learned and applied some motivational techniques.

The benefits of motivation to an individual are fairly obvious, since people who are motivated tend to be more successful in achieving their personal and professional goals,this internal motivation has benefits to self-esteem and confidence. 

Three Golden Rules of Motivation

Motivation does not take place on its own. In order to be motivated or to motivate others, it’s important to remember three golden rules of motivation before considering any specific approach.

Rule 1 – Motivation with Clear Goals

Motivation and goal setting are inevitably linked. Without a goal or purpose, motivation is meaningless, at the same time motivation is a vital part of intentionally achieving any goal. Two of the most basic motivators are: knowing exactly what you are trying to achieve, and striving to achieve it. Not having a clear idea of your goal or not believing that the goal is attainable will negatively impact your levels of  motivation.

Rule 2 – Motivation and Goals need to be Aligned

In order to achieve your goals, you need to be passionate about what you are working towards but more importantly, you need to do something daily that is linked to your goal.  Whether you spend time visualizing, planning, reading or just talking to someone about your goal, it will all add up to keep your motivation high and the goal at the forefront of your mind. I find it useful to keep track of my accomplishments toward my goals in a journal.  I even write down the things that got in the way that day and make a plan for how I will avoid the disruption the next time it pops up.

Rule 3 – Motivation is Fluid

Motivation is not a one-time event. Something that motivates you at one particular time may not work in the future, which is usually due to changes in your environment or circumstances. Even if circumstances stayed the same, the most powerful motivational factors will lose impact over time. For example, you may watch a Ted Talk and feel energized by a particular speaker, and feel highly motivated afterward to put what you heard into action. How long will the impact of what you heard last before you go back to your old ways of doing things?

A great place to start is by figuring out your vision, creating a plan and setting manageable goals to keep you motivated. You can find out more about Motivation and Vision or explore the FB group for support from the Tribe.

Inhale. Exhale.

Violet Buddha